Polygamy (having more than one spouse) is illegal in Australia. I cannot help but wonder if it should also be illegal to be out there online trolling for love when you already have a partner. I often wonder... gay men push for gay marriage and want others to value their relationships…but are they themselves putting a lot of value on these relationships? I’ve started any online conversation with the qualifying question of: “Are you single?” as most of the guys I chat to online are in open relationship or relationships where one partner plays while the other suspects he’s at the gym! It seems that everyone is looking to see what is around the corner even guys who are in relationships. If you are on an application called GRINDR, I do not care what you say…you are not there to make new friends to discuss world politics. Especially when you have a picture of your penis and list your sexual fetishes but end your profile headline with “happily partnered.” I’ve now changes my profile to “Only happily singled” need apply.

• Egypt Old Singles

Single people do not like to be asked why they are single. Most do not want to be single ...they have just not met the right person...the timing has been of or they have not been “caught.” Some people are actually happy being single. In Catholic school before graduation we had to take a class called Christian Lifestyles. In it, we had to pair up...”get married” and be given a number of “challenges.” These included having a children, loosing one’s job and having to move. All the challenges were “Christian” and we had to deal with them in a “Christian” way. You could not be gay. You could not be single. The only “Christian” option was to either be a priest or a nun. I often wondered if being single was as bad as being “gay.” Neither really lead to procreation. So back to my couple friends...I think many of them wish they could be single. The reality is that the grass will always be greener on the other side. There will be many relationships in my life but none will be more important than the relationship I have with me. And as Carrie says...I’m fabulous. And if I find someone to walk the less travelled road with then that is a plus. If not, life is still wonderful and I can be happy.

• Hong Kong Older Men and Women

I once had my “numbers” read by a woman in China. I’ve heard of people reading cards and coffee cups but I had never had my numbers read. Why not? My digits were my date of birth. The woman said I was born to be a matchmaker. She was right. I love to bring people together. Maybe it is like they say. Those who cannot do...match! I have to admit, I have not had much luck but it is not because I am not trying. I am trying to help a friend fix his sister with one of his work colleagues. Match making is a rather difficult business. It can be dangerous to be the messenger. My friend is not sure what approach he should use with his straight work mate. I think most people would be suspicious about being set up with my “older sister.”

• Jordan Loveawake

But there is a shortage of single straight men in this city. And my friend’s sister is gorgeous. I suggested the group approach. You invite your work colleague to after work drinks. There’s a group of people there...but only one straight girl who happens to be single. Bingo...alcohol + single girl = match. There is less pressure as it is not a real date...it’s just people coming together...the group thing...everyone has an air bag. But my friend’s sister would prefer the blind date approach. No expectations but a more organised approach. This is an actual kindda of date approach. She’s interested. My friend is just not sure how to raise this subject with his co worker. I say bring up dating in general....talk about how many single girls he knows (as most gay boys do) and casually tell the work colleague how he’s be happy to set him up if he ever needed to meet nice girls. This would leave it up to the work colleague... There is a worst thing to being a single gay guy and that’s being a single straight woman. There is a man shortage in Sydney. It seems for every gay man and straight man there are three fabulous 30 something women. So they need help out there. They need match making....they need their own party....singles party. If you are single...and looking...drop me a line. I’ll work my magic and try to set you up.

• Kuwait Loveawake Dating

Part of the whole dating game is trying to find out what your date is thinking and feeling. When you first are getting to know someone there are all these insecurities....”does he like me? is my dick big enough? will there be sexual chemistry? is he more into me than I am him.” Unless you are a know it all, omnipotent vampire who can read minds, you spend half the time trying to read signals and interpret what your date is thinking and feeling. Most of the time you end up assuming too much. “He’s not into me...” or “He’s going to dump me....” or “he thinks I’m too needy” and the classic “I think he needs space.” Most of the time he’s probably thinking the same thing. So he probably gives you space. Which you interpret as “he’s ignoring me.” And then no one calls each other....until you bump into some night club and hook up again.

• Kyrgyzstan Loveawake